Woman relaxing by a window with a nice cup of coffee

A few days ago, we reposted a photo on our Instagram stories that Miranda Hart had put on her own Instagram about knowing what you need and when you need it.

Miranda was talking about being an introvert and how she wished she’d known in her twenties, what she knows now - being ok with who she was and being happy doing what she needed to make herself feel, well, herself.

Miranda Hart relaxing in bed

“Snug as a bug in a rug. I so wish I had known I was an introvert in my 20’s. Then I would have known going to bed at 8.30 whilst it was still light was how I needed to recharge sometimes. How being alone was ok and necessary. How too many parties or the wrong kind were detrimentally tiring. The punishment I was put under by myself and others for not always wanting to be social and hating clubbing was ridiculous. I share this to help any young introverts in case they don’t realise they are one and just think they are weird, or worse, mentally unstable. So much anxiety and labelling comes from the fact we don’t know ourselves wholly yet. Now I know being snug as a bug in a rug (correction, weighted blanket) is not because I am middle aged but because it’s a great joy and how I recharge and want to live. Any anxiety I had going clubbing in my 20’s wasn’t illness it was because I just bloody hated clubbing. Night night!”

It got us thinking

How many of us know what we need to make us feel more ourselves?

And even if we do know what we need, how many of us actually do it? Do what we need to make ourselves feel good, feel happy, feel recharged, feel relaxed, feel free - just feel a bit more whole.

Take it one step further - how often do you do things for yourself without caring what anyone else might have to say about it or having to fight with an internal monologue to do it? Or NOT do something for yourself because it goes ‘against the grain’?

Think about it for a second.

Going off the conversations we have had at L&C HQ about the matter, we are guessing probably not very often right? Many of us here had to sheepishly admit to not doing things that make us feel better for fear of judgement and even admitting to feeling guilty for ‘indulging’, especially if it is something a little ‘quieter’ than karaoke on a Friday.

Let’s be honest, we live in an ever-growing, ever-busy, ever-invasive world filled with billions and billions of voices telling us what to do and when to do it; what is good for us, bad for us, what is going to make us sad, happy, laugh, cry, what is going to fix that anger, stress and turmoil, but the reality is, only you truly know what works for you. And what may work for one type or person may not be the same as Barbara from next door.

The point of this blog post?

Well, to just encourage and reassure you to do whatever it is you need to do, to make yourself feel more….you.

We aren’t going to tell you what to do or how to do it - like we said before, only you know that. Whether you’ve found something for you through trial and error, or just have an inherent knowledge of what you need, do it without caring what anyone else thinks, and doing it because it is right for you. That’s it.

Relaxing in the garden with her dog

You do you hun!

The main thing is, it doesn’t matter what ‘it’ is!

For Miranda Hart, it was about knowing that she needed a quiet night in to recharge and care for that introvert side of herself - being ok saying no to a Saturday night out. For some of the L&C staff it is taking a little stroll to get in touch with nature, doing some baking at home to channel that creative side, going to a gym class to relieve some stress and have a chat with other gym goers, watching an old episode of Grey’s Anatomy for pure Patrick Dempsey nostalgia, going for a drink with a pal to have a good old chin-wag, going to choir practice to let out that inner diva. What may work for the lady across the road, may not work for the person you just walked passed in Sainsbury’s and that’s the beauty of being you - you are a totally unique individual, with a whole multitude of your own thoughts, feelings, experiences

Whatever it is, do it. And do it for you.